DEAR ABBY: I am married to a wonderful woman, but something has been bothering me since we have been together. I am not as honest as I should be in our relationship.
We have had money problems pretty much since our marriage began. I have a spending problem, and I lie to her about where the money goes. I have been doing better, but I still want to spend money we do not have.
I do not spend money on drugs, prostitutes or clothes, but rather on plastic models and other hobby-related items. How do I stop spending and lying to my wife about it? -- SICK OF THE LYING IN OKLAHOMA
DEAR SICK: You start acting like a man instead of a child with his hand in the cookie jar. You recognize that marriage is a partnership and you have been, in a sense, stealing from your partner. Then you and she agree on a budget you can responsibly allocate to your hobby, and live within your means.
I think that's a really great perspective - that when you spend money that your family doesn't have, you are stealing from your partner, because eventually that debt is going to overwhelm you and you will need your partner's help to pay it off.
I think it's also especially telling for this guy that he has been spending all his money on toys - he really is stuck in childhood! Although you have to wonder if his wife hasn't already become suspicious.. it's pretty hard to stay in the dark that much, if your husband has piles and piles of hobby toys, but claims he's only spending "a few dollars" on it. I wonder if he'll actually be a man and fess up to his wife..