tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post116612143208371364..comments2023-12-24T02:29:14.724-05:00Comments on Penny Foolish: Splitting my raiseUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-14596839072649416822021-06-25T01:40:32.073-04:002021-06-25T01:40:32.073-04:00Best content & valuable as well. Thanks for sh...Best content & valuable as well. Thanks for sharing this content.<br /><a href="www.acuvat.com/contact-us/" rel="nofollow"> Approved Auditor in DAFZA</a><br /><a href="www.acuvat.com/about-us/" rel="nofollow">Approved Auditor in RAKEZ </a><br /><a href="www.acuvat.com/contact-us" rel="nofollow"> Approved Auditor in JAFZA </a><br />i heard about this blog & get actually whatever i was finding. 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It is not like your boyfriend is entirely dependent upon you and is not paying anything at all. <BR/><BR/>You are the only person walking in your shoe, so only you will know.Tired of being brokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02026029030939029254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166422421114214652006-12-18T01:13:00.000-05:002006-12-18T01:13:00.000-05:00You're so generous, thoughtful and considerate whe...You're so generous, thoughtful and considerate when it comes to your boyfriend! I hope he appreciates what you do and is worth the trouble you go to.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12104373921737620949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166302355726583202006-12-16T15:52:00.000-05:002006-12-16T15:52:00.000-05:00Kira,I'm sorry, but I am going to have to side wit...Kira,<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry, but I am going to have to side with D here (NOT THAT ANY OF THIS IS SOLICITED ADVICE, so feel free to ignore all of us.).<BR/><BR/>However, your boyfriend is actually wrong. When all is said and done, years later, I can assure you, the money you could have been saving for yourself will be what you will resent. Initially, no, you'll resent the fact he never put the toilet seat down, that he left the milk on the counter to rot, that he didn't do the laundry right and messed up your favorite shirt. But 20 years later, you'll kick yourself saying, 'I should have saved my money and made him pay his share.'<BR/><BR/>Talk to some divorced adults. You'll hear them be sorry about the money as much as the relationship. It's sad, but true. I never regretted the money I spent on my ex-boyfriend who had no job while we dated. Not one dime of it. I'd do it again if we were still together.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with the boyfriend. I'm glad you have a generous heart. Your post reveals as much about you as any other. Love is good.mapgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06141234159609900257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166192552505217242006-12-15T09:22:00.000-05:002006-12-15T09:22:00.000-05:00Also, when I commented to Boyfriend that my commen...Also, when I commented to Boyfriend that my commenters had said I would resent him for it if we broke up, he said, you know, you're going to resent me for a lot of things if we break up, and this would probably not be the biggest.Kirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991840729281607982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166188456827971482006-12-15T08:14:00.001-05:002006-12-15T08:14:00.001-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.mOOmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03440274434662150925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166192450327141082006-12-15T09:20:00.000-05:002006-12-15T09:20:00.000-05:00The $1000 is pre-tax, which is why the $500 post t...The $1000 is pre-tax, which is why the $500 post tax I figure will come to about $400. I already budget $125 a month for the Roth out of my current salary.<BR/><BR/>I guess my reasoning comes down to this - we were talking about it in the car last night - $200 is just about 6% of my pretax, but about 16% of his. It represents a fairly small amount of money compared to my salary (and that I have extra money from my adventures on the internet coming in) but is a significant chunk of his.Kirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991840729281607982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166188946728200352006-12-15T08:22:00.000-05:002006-12-15T08:22:00.000-05:00In my opinion much better to split the costs in di...In my opinion much better to split the costs in different ways to reflect earnings than setting up joint accounts and assets. The latter is what is potentially messy. I've split expenses in unequal ways with a room-mate I had no personal relationship with...<BR/><BR/>I know from experience that when there is a big disparity in incomes (3 or 4 to 1 or more) in this kind of relationship just as much resentment can be caused if partners aren't contributing what is seen as fair shares. <BR/><BR/>Every case is very individual. Some people want to pay 50:50 to feel good about things despite a huge income disparity and others expect the high income partner to pay much more for everything.mOOmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03440274434662150925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166188442331198762006-12-15T08:14:00.000-05:002006-12-15T08:14:00.000-05:00So the $1000 is after tax?So the $1000 is after tax?mOOmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03440274434662150925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166162867543059442006-12-15T01:07:00.000-05:002006-12-15T01:07:00.000-05:00Empathy, interesting, but not necessaryemphaticall...<I>Empathy, interesting, but not necessary</I><BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=emphatically" REL="nofollow">emphatically</A><BR/><BR/>:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166147676669381952006-12-14T20:54:00.000-05:002006-12-14T20:54:00.000-05:00Empathy, interesting, but not necessary. Let me c...Empathy, interesting, but not necessary. <BR/><BR/>Let me clarify something here - it doesn't matter if your married or gay or partnered. Divorce statistics should not by anyway help you determine which way to go. Everything in life has risk. <BR/><BR/>Our job is to expose ourselves to the least risk. Especially in our early foundation years. <BR/><BR/>I feel they should both carry their weight for their own self issues. These are necessary expenses no matter where you go. $400 a month is low expenses.<BR/><BR/>I can see Kira, who makes more, paying more for their entertainment and extras, but the expenses should always be shared. Leaving out the possibility of issues later, like "I supported you when...." or "I couldn't have made it without..."<BR/><BR/>Life is hard enough, know you can get there on your own.Denise Mallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13253101883627114010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166127263743215432006-12-14T15:14:00.000-05:002006-12-14T15:14:00.000-05:00I completely (respectfully) disagree with the abov...I completely (respectfully) disagree with the above comment -- most emphatically, with #1.<BR/><BR/>While I strongly believe in the institution of marriage, it can't be denied that marriages (and divorces) are a dime a dozen. There are unmarried partnerships that endure 50 years or more. There are marriages that don't last two months. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it only has the sanctity that the two people involved assign it. All you can do is assess your personal situation, and decide if you trust it or not -- whether or not you're married is pretty much irrelevant in that regard. <BR/><BR/>#2 - There are differing ideas of what constitutes a 'share.' Some people split 50-50. Some people split percentage-wise (this is the Suze Orman school of thought) -- say, each of you contributes 15% of your take-home pay to household expenses. If you're making three times as much as your grad-student partner, you'd pay three times as much towards the household. These approaches are both equitable, just in different ways.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166125718844640662006-12-14T14:48:00.000-05:002006-12-14T14:48:00.000-05:00I have to agree with "d". How about you save the ...I have to agree with "d". How about you save the money in an account for your future together? If you did end up getting married, you could then spend the money to pay his student loans or put a downpayment on a house for the both of you. If you don't end up together then, there's no harm, no foul. You still have the money and don't feel cheated. <BR/><BR/>I do think it is good to be generous, but I also find it hard to believe that anyone would not have hard feelings toward someone who they supported and then dumped them. I also think that these types of things can tie you to someone who may not be your best match. I know it is old-fashioned, but I believe in not merging finances until you are ready to commit to God in front of your family and friends that this is for life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1166123066519516462006-12-14T14:04:00.000-05:002006-12-14T14:04:00.000-05:00You have a heart that is large and a bright future...You have a heart that is large and a bright future. I am right there with you on most things, but this one thing I am not. <BR/><BR/>First let me say I know it is your decision and your life, but as a quietly aging adult, who has seen too much icky stuff...I'm going to speak up.<BR/><BR/>I understand completely your desire to move some of your boyfriends burden from him. For your heart it is a good thing. When I read your words I wanted to jump in my car and cross 2 states and stop you. <BR/><BR/>In my eyes this is not good for many reasons - <BR/>1. He is your boyfriend, not your husband, not your brother, but a boyfriend. Although, everything is peaches and cream now, this could change. <BR/>2. Boyfriend needs to pay his share, if for no other reason then self-respect.<BR/>3. You need to secure your future, if for no other reason but to have a brighter future with him.<BR/><BR/>Talk to your parents, before you do this. I know you are an adult. He may be by your side till you take your last breath. In the off chance, that he is not.....how will you feel. Will you still be OK with this choice? Will your soul harbor a grudge?<BR/><BR/>Move with caution Kira, if for no other reason than to protect yourself from the unknow.<BR/><BR/>2nd - I am going to try your CashDuck - I'm kind of nervous, but I'm ready!Denise Mallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13253101883627114010noreply@blogger.com