tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post115219172114675396..comments2023-12-24T02:29:14.724-05:00Comments on Penny Foolish: Give Your Parents A Big Hug for Not Buying You All That CrapUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1152218465120530282006-07-06T16:41:00.000-04:002006-07-06T16:41:00.000-04:00Kids who save their money are to commended. Paren...Kids who save their money are to commended. Parents who try to control how their kids spend their money should be cautioned. <BR/><BR/>When I was a kid, my dad was cool with how I spent what I'd managed to save. My mom was not. It was often a choice between calm, intelligent discourse (dad) and ugly, screaming lectures (mom). What I learned was that my dad was someone I could confide in and get advice from while mom was someone I needed to hide things from. I got great advice from my dad til the the day he died and I haven't talked to my mother for over 20 years.<BR/><BR/>Parents need to be careful. What their children are learning may not be the lessons they're trying to teach.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1152216857782180792006-07-06T16:14:00.000-04:002006-07-06T16:14:00.000-04:00I think my parents get two hugs each by your stand...I think my parents get two hugs each by your standards because boy, I didn't even know that people actually PAID and KEPT books they read instead of borrowing from the library until I was twelve? Fourteen? Ok, maybe not fourteen, but close enough. <BR/>I can't think of a single thing my parents bought or paid for, for me, ever (that includes college and all the related expenses, my first car, etc.). Oh, a bed! Yes, I got a bed in 8th grade. <BR/>Contrast that to BrotherDucky whose private high school education was paid for with so many extra hours of work, sweat and tears that it compromised MamaDucky's health. That education led to exactly .. nothing. His best friends are doctors and consultants. He dropped out of college and didn't support himself for the next ten years while his public school educated little sister worked her butt off to support the entire family and finish school. <BR/>And I'm the one still at home helping them out while he can barely give them the time of day. <BR/>My point? Giving your kids the higher-priced things in life is just giving them higher priced things in life. It isn't the magic formula to success and love and all that. <BR/>For a better example than me? Our little cousin who just graduated from my alma mater (high school) lived on the edge of poverty with one working parent. She will attend Pomona College this fall with nearly a full-ride scholarship from school and another 15k in merit grants and scholarships. Babydoll did just fine without a single vacation, gifts or any such luxury that most of us consider necessities. Oh yeah, and she has an awesome attitude about life. Which is really the important thing, isn't it?<BR/>Mike: I think you're totally right because that's the reaction I see from my parents - they wish they could buy stuff to make up for what they see are deficiencies. They just don't realize that they never taught me to expect that stuff anyway! BrotherDucky is entirely another story.Revanchehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07293868300535734672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29579128.post-1152196205136005492006-07-06T10:30:00.000-04:002006-07-06T10:30:00.000-04:00I think most of it has to do with the attitude in ...I think most of it has to do with the attitude in which you deny your children things. I had a friend in high school whose parents would constantly promise her things that they had no intention of giving her, and then would renege on their promise and tell her to get over it. She developed a very "gimme" attitude from that treatment, even now that her money is her own, like a starving child who doesn't realize yet that the food supply isn't going to be cut off.<BR/><BR/>You can tell very quickly who the parents are that don't deny their children anything - the children are generally running around screaming and throwing tantrums, even at older ages.Kirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991840729281607982noreply@blogger.com